Mirror, Mirror On The Wall

"Mirror, mirror, on the wall, you must only reflect what appears normal to all."
Appearances tell us a lot; they also lie a lot. One byproduct of having been abused is the great motivation to hide it, to appear normal and together. As someone wryly pointed out to me "Normal is a cycle on a washing machine." Hiding takes many guises. Work, addictions, religion, being busy all the time, the list is limited only by inventiveness.

It was important to me for a long time to appear normal, have explanations and reasons for all I did, or didn't, do. My agenda was that no one must ever see inside me; if they did I would be revealed as the broken being I really was. Therefore, went the dysfunctional reasoning, whoever saw inside me would immediately leave, and once again a love would leave my life.

If you were to be x-rayed, only the usual human anatomy and plumbing would show up on the picture. There is no shame, guilt or brokenness in you. The only invisible things in you are the beliefs and concepts you were fed as children. There is only the bill of goods we were sold and which, with our childlike trust and innocence, we bought as truth. No one is on a fixed diet for life; we can always choose, as adults, to feed ourselves a different bill of goods.

It has been shocking, sometimes, for me to discover how dead wrong I've been in some of my beliefs. Everyone has a subconscious picture of how life is supposed to be. Your subconscious mind spends 24 hours a day making this picture come true. Changing this piece of imagery can be very uncomfortable, sometimes painful. The temporary discomfort and pain is more than worth it in the end.

Breaking a mirror is supposed to bring 7 years bad luck. I'm happy I broke the mirror of appearances, and I don't believe in luck. I believe in spirit, love, synchronicity and, more each day, myself.
Give yourself the same break.

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