Only In Your Dreams

Many of us have met the person with whom we dream of falling perfectly in love, and who will fall perfectly in love with us. It happens at any age. Everyone succumbs to romantically perfect love. In a subtle way, cultural expectations play a cruel trick on us.

We are fooled into searching for a perfection in ourselves and other people which does not exist. This is why we appear unable to find, build and enjoy a stable, fulfilling relationship with someone we love and by whom we are loved in return.

When we can't find a loving relationship it is easy to believe there is something wrong with us. We may feel the universe has singled us out for cruel and unusual punishment. Well, we haven't been singled out and there is nothing wrong with us. There is only a need to learn better skills and to believe there is someone out there for us. Conversely, for those of us already in a relationship, we need to believe that problems can be solved, intimacy and harmony deepened.

It is important to allow the dream of there being a better way - a more loving and fulfilling way of life. We have hopes and dreams for a reason. If we didn't have the vision of a more rewarding way of life in the future there would not be much purpose in getting out of bed in the morning.

I read a story about a man who sold his claim during the Klondike gold rush when he became discouraged. The buyer had to dig only four feet deeper before he hit the richest vein in the Yukon! I guess no one had clued the first owner into the power of dreams.

A dream of attaining serenity kept me going through the thick and thin of learning a better way. Like everyone else, I have had my share of knocks. My dreams give me courage, incentive and purpose when all else looks bleak. Allow yourself to have your dreams - don't let anyone kill them. The road to happiness is as clearly sign posted as is the one to unhappiness. Dreams are the stuff of happiness.

I encourage you to give your dreams space in your field of possibilities. Love is the only abiding force in the universe, and dreams are the fish in the ocean of love. There are more fish in the ocean than you will ever catch. The opportunities for love are just as bountiful.

Be open to the possibility of a loving relationship if you are looking for one, be open to growth in intimacy and satisfaction if already in one. Every worthwhile part of our modern lifestyle began as a dream. The Wright brothers with flight, Nikolai Tesla with electricity, Madame Curie with radium.
It is true, "Only in your dreams..."

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