Leave The Past Behind

If you are to face your future with peace of mind and be free to make effective choices, it is vital you leave the past behind. If you don't, you will repeat the same mistakes over and over.

If you meet someone you want to have a loving relationship with, it is up to you to clear away obstacles which you know cause you to act defensively or avoid intimacy. Moving into a new future is a scary proposition for most of us. To help you, here are a few tips that work and are simple to use.

First, make sure that all the emotional parts of you want the past to be let go of. If this sounds strange, think of it this way: often we have hidden, sentimental memories of a piece of our past we haven't looked at yet.

Casting back through your memory banks of past relationships is usually enough to update and bring them into tune with reality. Something you may have forgotten or never realized before may come to your attention for you to release from your life.

Secondly, you can make leaving the past behind easier by looking at times you were scared and remembering how much better you felt after making the change. Realize that everything in life is cause and effect. If you create a positive cause now by letting go an attitude that doesn't work, you will eventually have a positive effect happen in your relationship life.

What goes up must come down. Make a deal with yourself - you agree to go through the scary bit now and reward yourself with a wonderful relationship, or see wonderful improvements in the one you have.

Third, keep in mind that since you alone create your future, absolutely anything can be changed. This may sound like a tall order, yet it doesn't have to happen overnight. You have the rest of your life. We are trained to whiz through life like cars at the race track.

Slow down, give yourself time to get used to the innards of your situation and you will be amazed at how fast and easy the answers come. If you hang onto your past, you will repeat it because humans are creatures of habit.

Fourth, do your best to go with the flow. I don't mean be a doormat. It is vital to remember that everyone else has their point of view and agenda also. Honey is sweeter than vinegar. When hot words fly to your lips, count to 5 before opening them.

What seems so important now will mean nothing in a few hours or a day; and it's usually a memory from the past that makes you want to speak too quickly.

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