Feeling Worthy of Love

Our way of life in this busy world is competitive. We believe we must earn rewards at work and socially by measuring up to outside standards, such as the money we make, where we live, our occupation and the education we have.

This belief in having to earn our validation pollutes our personal lives, especially in the place of love and relationship. Misery is the result of believing we are not good enough the way we are. It is painful, to say the least, to believe we must be different than we are before we can have lasting love.

It is for each of us to look at our life and acknowledge and accept we are okay the way we are. It is for each of us to choose personally what is or isn't good for us. The main reason we believe we "can't" find a fulfilling relationship is because we have decided we are not worthy of one.

It is a psychological fact we meet our own expectations. So how can we expect to be in a loving relationship if we do not count on having one? Count on having one with all your heart and soul, be willing to make whatever changes you need to, and you will have one.

Working on yourself brings on the loving surprise of discovering you are okay just the way you are. The only difference between people working on their stuff and folks who don't is the choice each makes. There is nothing different about people who seek a better life. They simply chose to make some changes, is all. I would not try to drill my own sore tooth, I go see a dentist, pleasant or not. Anybody benefits from healthy guidance.

You are worthy, capable and deserving of a fulfilling relationship. It doesn't matter who you are, it is there for you to have a loving relationship. You are worthy the way you are. No need to change at all before you start one - although such a relationship will change you profoundly, and this is beautiful.

We all have wonderful skills, gifts and experiences to take into a relationship - we just have to take the risks, make the mistakes and grow from the experiences. Two people are required to do this - all of it sitting on the foundation of seeing-the-humor-in-it-come-what-may.

Believe you are worthy, act your worthiness. And, if you have to, "fake it until you make it." Everything worthwhile in your life begins with a dream, an idea, a desire, a heartfelt longing. Sometimes, it comes as a flash of awareness at the oddest moment. Love makes the world go around. Being in love makes anyone's universe spin better and brighter.

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